It is nice to get advice and perspective from different sources. I just recently found some advice that parents may wish to invoke with their young drivers. Thank you to Dear Abbey for her wise words!
Dear Abby: Teen with traffic tickets may get ticket only to ride
Dear Abby: My niece, “Amy,” got her driver’s license last November. Since then she has been stopped six times for violations. Unfortunately, she wasn’t ticketed for any of them — just given warnings. Who knows how many other times she should have been ticketed?
When Amy told me about it, she acted like it was a joke and something she was proud of. Her parents are divorced and her father spoils her beyond reason. He gives her whatever she wants, including buying her a new car. Her mother has little control over her.
My niece doesn’t seem to understand the possible consequences or what serious damage a car can do to her or to someone else. How should I handle this? I have no contact with her father. Any ideas? — Concerned Aunt in Massachusetts
Dear Concerned Aunt: Although Amy was old enough to get her license, she is not yet mature enough to handle the responsibility that goes along with driving. For her sake I hope you will impress upon her mother that lives could depend upon her exerting control over her daughter.
Many states restrict conditions under which a teen may drive a car. In addition, many parents draft a driving contract that stipulates things like what kind of grade-point average their teenager must maintain to keep his or her driving privileges, limiting the number of passengers he or she can transport and certain distance limits.
Other restrictions can be added at the parents’ option. A version of the following contract has appeared in my column before:
I ( ), agree to the stipulations stated below granting me the privilege of driving. If, at any time, I violate this agreement, my driving privileges will be forfeited.
(1) Should I get a traffic ticket, I agree to pay for the ticket, as well as the difference in the insurance premium for as long as the premium is in effect.
(2) I agree to pay for damages that I incur that are not covered by insurance.
(3) At no time will I ever text or use a cellphone while driving.
(4) At no time will I ever drink alcoholic beverages and drive, nor will there ever be any in my car.
(5) I will not drive the car until I and all passengers have buckled up.
(6) I will keep the car I drive clean, inside and out, be aware of its need for gas, oil, etc., and wax it as needed.
I have read the above agreement and will sign it in accordance with the rules.
Signed: (Child)
I hope you will share this information with Amy’s mother, because in careless hands a car can be as dangerous as a loaded gun. It is not a toy, even though your niece appears to be treating it like one.
http://www.recordonline.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20120514/COMM/205140311/-1/SITEMAP
Thanks again Abbey for your sage advice that you have laid out above.
My Traffic Ticket Tip:
As one of the millions of Parents out there, I have had concerns about how my children were driving while on their own. Parenting does not end once the driver has been issued a driver’s license. As a parent we have the obligation to help our young drivers develop their driving skills and gain experience. We should be setting good examples by demonstrating good driving attitudes, practices and decisions. We should be letting our drivers drive with us whenever we have the opportunity so we can see how they are progressing in their driving skills and engage in conversations that will bolster their skill set.
If you are not a confident driver, my best suggestion would be to find a driving instructor who will give your driver the skills and knowledge that they need to survive out on the roadways. Up to know you have “invested” tens and tens of thousands of $$$ in your child, so driving lessons that will keep them from getting into a crash may be just the ticket that will keep them safe.
I think that Abbey might agree with me on this one!
Drive Safely!
Gord
VR, 1405
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